Transformation: Dancing With The Sacred

"The journey between what you once were and who you are now becoming is where the dance of life really takes place."  —Barbara Deangelis

 

Last week in the studio someone mentioned that, for her, painting is like dancing. After a night of dancing you don't bring home anything tangible, but you feel different...you are transformed from the movement. Painting without the goal of a finished product is very much the same. Once we shake off the uncertainty of needing to look like anyone else, or needing to do it "right", we can close our eyes, feel the music and sway to a beat that pulsates just under our feet. We begin listening to what is uniquely ours. We metaphorically "dance" with paint when we meet our sacred inner partner and begin to move in a way known only to us. This is how we transform.

The month of January is a powerful time for transformation through new beginnings. We'd love to meet you where you are in your journey, and have a variety of painting opportunities for you including a daylong retreat "Purpose, Power & Passion for the New Year" with Wholeness Coach, Intuitive Change Agent and Unity Minister Diana Kennedy. We think you will love Diana and are super-excited to partner with her for this special offering! 

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Wishing you joyous change & transformation this year,
Jen and Steph

Finding Home Within Ourselves

“Winter is the time for comfort, for good food and warmth, for the touch of a friendly hand and for a talk beside the fire: it is the time for home.”

― Edith Sitwell

It's almost December and as the days become short and the winds blow cold we are instinctively called to move inside. This time of year is perfect for deep self-reflection as we seem to be asked by those blowing winds and dark afternoons to come home to ourselves. We are called to light the fire within and take time to get to know ourselves by reconnecting to something we thought lost. We slow down and begin to listen to what we truly need - our own deep and magnificent love warming us from the inside.

At Nectar we celebrate this hibernation and create a safe space to explore and reconnect with paint and community. We are warmed by our own light as we show up for ourselves and each other. Together we create a place where we can arrive just as we are without a mask or a plan, a place where vulnerability and truth are things to be celebrated and encouraged - a place where we are truly seen.

The studio will be open every weekend this month, so if you need a break from the busy energy of the season or a warm place to connect with others during the holidays, we'd love to see you!

Wishing you peace this season,
Jen and Steph

Being Who You Are

Who am I? What is my true nature? Am I worthy of love?

This last month I attended two different retreats that invited me to step out of my normal modes of operation and delve deep within. The first was a process painting retreat with my mentor Sarah Oblinger and took place at a YMCA camp nestled in the Flint Hills of Kansas. The second was an insight meditation silent retreat with my dharma teacher Robert Brumet and took place in a clubhouse tucked away in nature at Unity Village, Missouri. While these two retreats were quite different in design--(one involved the colorful and soulful acts of painting, dancing, connecting, sharing food and stories, while the other utilized more solitary and inward practices of silent meditation)--they wove together for me a common theme: The courage and compassion to see and accept myself as I truly am. Both retreats I went into with a sense of identity (of "being someone doing something") and both I came out of feeling raw, vulnerable, fully alive, and completely connected with my heart.

Each retreat--each in its own way--taught mindfulness, or consciousness of what is. In order to have clear awareness, we must be willing to strip away the stories and see something as it truly is, not as we would like it to be. The myth of perfectionism has driven me for most of my life. Somehow at an early age I adopted the belief that "if I'm just good enough, I will be loved." Unfortunately, from that vantage point, enough is never enough.

I am very moved by the work of the "vulnerability guru", researcher and storyteller Brené Brown. In case you aren't one of the 12 million+ people who have viewed her wildly popular TED talk on The Power of Vulnerability or the more recent talk on Listening to Shame, I HIGHLY recommend watching them. She talks about shame as being the fear of disconnection ("Is there something about me that, if other people know it or see it, that I won't be worthy of connection?") She says you must be willing to let go of who you think you should be in order to be who you really are. A scary thing, and yet crucial for true living.

Who am I when I strip away the strategies? When I let go of the stories? I might have a sense of comfort and familiarity in my old-yet-outdated identity, but the truth of who I am so much bigger. So much deeper. So raw. So human. Imperfect, and yet completely deserving of love.

When we reject part of our essence, we might unknowingly be treating ourselves in a violent way, whether through our self-talk or in the way we relate to our bodies. And that's so easy to do--I mean, how many times through our popular culture do we subliminally receive the message that we are not okay as we are? Perfectionism is a trap. It's a distraction from what truly is. Practicing compassion for oneself becomes an act of courage in a world clouded by delusion.

Who am I really? I am enough.

Living In Gratitude: A Place Of Thanksgiving

"In the end, though, maybe we must all give up trying to pay back the people in this world who sustain our lives. In the end, maybe it's wiser to surrender before the miraculous scope of human generosity and to just keep saying thank you, forever and sincerely, for as long as we have voices.” 

― Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love

 

November is the unofficial start of the holidays, when we're greeted with colder weather, busier streets and fuller schedules. This month brings us the holiday for feasting and family and a grand opportunity to remember all that we have and rejoice by giving thanks. It's nice to wonder what would happen if we could take that feeling of gratitude and carry it with us throughout the rest of the year... It could be a life changing event.

What we are learning in the studio is that it's not always easy to be full of gratitude when our lives feel hard or lonely, and it doesn't do us a bit of good to pretend those feelings don't exist. Through painting, we realize we can feel that hard loneliness and find some curiosity for it. And by diving into what we are experiencing in the moment (even the yucky stuff) we discover a little space to breathe in some needed fresh air. Our gratitude can begin in that moment, a place of thanks giving.

We are offering many painting opportunities this month and we'd love to see you! Thank you so much for being part of our community!

Living Without Masks: Finding The Courage To Be Ourselves

“She had blue skin,
And so did he.
He kept it hid
And so did she.
They searched for blue
Their whole life through,
Then passed right by-
And never knew.”

― Shel Silverstein, Every Thing on It

October brings us falling leaves, pumpkins and Halloween! All Hallow's Eve invites us for one night a year to wear a mask and playfully become something we are not. What many of us have found through process painting is that we are almost always wearing a mask of some kind—and not just on Halloween.

In the studio, we encourage curiosity and the courage to step into a new way of looking at things--taking off our mask to discover a truer self living within each breath and brush stroke. Even if it's just a few hours a week, we learn how it feels to inhabit that raw and vulnerable place. We paint to discover ourselves, and as we call on deep wisdom we are given an incredible gift: compassion for ourselves and others.

May this find you full of courage and wonder about what lives behind the mask!

Silencing Our Inner Critic

"If you hear a voice within you say 'you cannot paint,'

 then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced."

- Vincent Van Gogh

 

Lately at the studio, we've been working with how to disengage the long-held beliefs that we "aren't good enough." Most of us have had this belief, and for many of us it steers our lives... sometimes without us knowing it. That feeling of not being okay can lead us to look outside ourselves for solutions. The truth is we hold all the answers inside.

How do we learn to trust ourselves again? Well, at Nectar we paint! We are creative beings and sometimes just the feel and motion of putting paint on paper helps us return to our center of truth. The inner critic might still come in, but instead of buying into what it's telling us, we can thank it for its' many years of service and politely tell it to get lost. We do this by saying "YES" to what wants to come into our painting, even if it doesn't make sense, the colors don't match or we think it will "ruin" it. When we say "yes" to ourselves, it is powerful experience and a beautiful thing to witness.

We would love the opportunity to paint with you this month and hold you all in a space of loving kindness.

A peek inside the process

What's it like to attend a process painting workshop? Is there any skill or experience necessary? Do I have to talk about what I paint? What if I'm freaked-out to begin?

We're glad you asked! Unity Magazine has published an article by Jenny in their September/October 2013 issue that allows you to peer into a process painting workshop.

"This is not your typical art class. There’s no assignment or skill to learn; no need for a finished product to proudly display. No one is told what or how to paint. Rather, it’s about painting and living from the inside out. We learn to tune in and trust the natural creative impulses that flow through us at all times but can get stuck when we throw up roadblocks of doubt, judgment and fear. Developing the skills to tune in, trust, and take action from that deep place of inner knowing can have a positive ripple effect in our lives."

You can read the full article here, or if you'd rather view the article layout in the magazine, click here.

We'll be offering a 6-week series on Weds nights from 6-8:30 pm beginning Oct 9th in the newly-renovated, historic Unity tower as part of the Awaken Whole Life Center. You can call (855) 627-5672 to register, or click here for more information.

Turning Fear Into Curiosity

"Creativity takes courage." - Henri Matisse

                                              
At the studio we've been talking a lot lately about courage. And let's face it, stepping up to a blank piece of paper with no idea what comes next can be scary. Sometimes it takes courage just to walk through the door. 

The moment we begin to move with the paint and put some color on the page, a shift can occur. Creativity transforms us into curious creatures and suddenly it doesn't feel scary anymore. We move fluidly from one color to another, breathing in the individual personality of each hue. When we can find some playful interest around what comes next in our paintings, even the darkest of images don't seem to hold as much power over us. We become daring and bold; masters of alchemy--turning fear into curiosity. 

Discovering the Nature of Our Particular Genius

"We will discover the nature of our particular genius when we stop trying to conform to our own and other people’s models, learn to be ourselves and allow our natural channel to open.” — Shakti Gawain

Painting to Reveal Our Authentic Selves

There's something mystifying about showing up to a blank piece of paper with no instructions or agenda and just seeing what wants to happen. The moments of staring into the white void can be absolutely terrifying. And at the same time, exhilarating. An entire world of possibility awaits us to make the first mark.

Once we begin to paint, we might discover that the page reflects back like a mirror. While we might think we're painting something "out there," the painting is actually a reflection of our interior experience. Again, we might feel panic ("I have nowhere to hide!") or bliss ("I accept what I see with love.")

Painting for process can help us live more authentically and transparently as we show up to ourselves just as we are and allow some space for that expression. Just recently we offered a daylong workshop with spiritual counselor and Unity minister Heidi Alfrey, aka "the Queen of Transparency", and what ensued was a transformational day of process painting and deep Conscious Conversation around each individual's experience. I became very aware of the courage in the room, evident in each woman who shared from her heart and was open to seeing reality from a deeper perspective.

A snapshot of empowerment from the "Reveal Your True Colors" workshop with Heidi Alfrey at Creative Nectar Studio

What I've learned from my own healing work over the years is this: When we're true to ourselves, we have more energy for life. We're not wasting energy trying to block what we don't want the world to see. The late author Debbie Ford put it this way:

"You can't be fully yourself if you have aspects that are hiding. The shadow holds the truth of all authentic parts of being human - your vulnerability, your discontent, your jealousy, or an experience from the past that you haven't digested....The only way to invite them out of the shadow is to bring them into the light." —Debbie Ford

What better way to bring all parts of ourselves to the light then through the creative and colorful act of painting?  The alchemy that takes place is that as we begin to practice self-acceptance of what we see, the "shadow" aspects begin to lose power. It's the act of resisting our shadow that gives it energy.

Can you imagine a world where the people you interact with on a daily basis feel free enough to take off their mask of conditioning and live life in touch with the deepest, darkest aspects of themselves? While at the same time accepting themselves, and each of us, just as we are? We may not be able to transform the world at large in the blink of an eye, but we can start with ourselves by courageously revealing our authenticity and expressing our truth...one painting at a time. •

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PS—Heidi Alfrey is also host of the internet radio show "Let's Get Naked: Revealing Our Authentic Selves", airing live each Monday afternoon at 3pm CST on Unity Online Radio. She has interviewed me and Stephanie of Creative Nectar a couple times, as well as conducted a testimonial show interviewing several brave first-time painters. You can listen the archives and get a sneak-peek into the painting experience by following the links below...